Loving an Engineer By: Tracy Moudry, RN-BSN & Co-Owner of Quality Touch Studios

Loving an Engineer is something else...

In a predominately male field, being a female studio owner is hard. When I first met my soon to be husband, I watched him do his thing with his music but never really paid much attention to it. I would often just keep myself busy as he worked. I’d do laundry, clean up the house, watch TV or whatever it took to avoid boredom without making too much noise to disturb him. As our relationship grew, I quickly learned this was not just your typical hobby. This man would eat, sleep and breathe music if I let him. As our relationship grew into a family, his dedication to his craft grew. He was putting food on the table with this skill. Watching the client base and income grow, I stopped just giving him time to work and started paying attention to what he was doing.

It was then I realized the happiness and drive that his musical talents were providing him. There were times he’d be annoyed, tired or just withdrawn from me, and after a few hours mixing or recording all that vanished. He would be rejuvenated, helpful, and back to his humorous self. Recognizing that huge impact music had on him made me want to support it. But I struggled with figuring out how I show him my support. I wanted him to be happy, but the hours spent in music meant that I was often overwhelmed as a new mom and feeling like I was doing everything on my own around the house while he got lost in the music. Something had to give. I couldn’t support his happiness at the expense of my own. I then realized the perfect compromise… learning his craft.

I initiated this change subtly at first. I would sit in the room while he would work, just listening while I would be on my phone and see how he reacted to my presence. I was shocked when it didn’t bother him or the clients when I was sitting in on his recording sessions. I'm so used to the typical business models where family and friends can’t just show up to your job unannounced. But this workplace isn’t like this. I quickly learned that my attendance wasn't just fine, but also encouraged. A client made a comment to Will one day. He said “Man… I wish my girl would support me like your girl does.” That made me smile, but also finally connected the dots on the best way to support him. Will wasn’t spending hours upon hours making music for the hell of it. He was putting in all this work because it is his passion that he was getting paid for doing. It finally clicked… I would support him by helping him turn his passion into a career.

Once I stopped thinking of engineering as a hobby and instead a business… our entire world changed. Investments I would have never imagined started being made. Thousands spent on computers, monitors, gear, microphones, plugins and more. But these investments weren’t just done on a whim. Every purchase was discussed together and with these discussions, I learned a little bit more about his craft. I witnessed the investments we made turn into results I could actually hear. The night of New Year’s Eve, my man called me utterly defeated. He had been disliking his part-time job serving for a while… but that night was it for me. Hearing his voice, I knew in my heart that I could not allow my man to be miserable knowing he could make money doing what he loved right from home. I told him to quit. Right there, on the spot, New Year’s Eve, huge rush… just told him to tip out and come home.

At first, I was terrified inside. But I prayed on it and put all my faith in God and this dedicated man that everything would be fine. He began working full time at Quality Touch Studios, LLC the very next day. We struggled on and off our first year, learning along the way. I pushed him to find the balance between work and family. We had to learn not to chase clients and just allow the quality we put out to bring them to us. I supported him behind the scenes with marketing, financials, and more. There were times I debated asking him to find another part-time job, but I’m glad I didn’t. I am amazed at the growth, prosperity, and happiness that this transition into entrepreneurship has brought our entire family. We are four years strong together and have plans on expanding our brand.

Loving an engineer can be hard. But when I’m struggling with feeling lonely or annoyed from the long hours and songs on repeat as he mixes, I don’t hold it in. I go up and spend time with him. Listening, learning the basics of his craft, spending time together in the studio. I've learned to let music become my release just like it is for him. We’ve played around making beats together. He’s taught me to run a recording session and put together a static mix. It’s certainly not something I could do full time like he does. I like staying behind the scenes in our business because that’s what I’m good at. But loving an engineer sometimes means learning to love what he does and incorporating that into your relationship so that the long hours and mental strain working in music requires brings you closer rather than tearing you apart.

19 comments

  • Ma'at Hotep

    Ma'at Hotep Fresno, Ca.

    THANK YOU & HIGH 5 TRACY. My wife is an RN-BSN also. This blog/post will help many. You are appreciated and my BROTHER WILLIAM is indeed lucky/blessed to have you as his wife. PROPS to both of you. Ma'at Hotep

    THANK YOU & HIGH 5 TRACY. My wife is an RN-BSN also. This blog/post will help many. You are appreciated and my BROTHER WILLIAM is indeed lucky/blessed to have you as his wife. PROPS to both of you.

    Ma'at Hotep

  • Renard Bowser

    Renard Bowser Washington state

    Tracy haven't met you or Will yet, but I'm sure someday we will. His Mom, Uncle Rick and I are 1st cousins and were very close growing up. Just wanted to say, BEAUTIFULLY written. Keep Strong and continue Reaching. God is Good...

    Tracy haven't met you or Will yet, but I'm sure someday we will. His Mom, Uncle Rick and I are 1st cousins and were very close growing up. Just wanted to say, BEAUTIFULLY written. Keep Strong and continue Reaching. God is Good...

  • Ashley

    Ashley Waldorf

    This article is truly amazing, I AM INSPIRED!!!!! Sometimes while beating and banging on our craft we need not only someone to care about us chasing our dream but someone to be there as well.

    This article is truly amazing, I AM INSPIRED!!!!! Sometimes while beating and banging on our craft we need not only someone to care about us chasing our dream but someone to be there as well.

  • Rob

    Rob Pennsylvania

    Much much love, peace and prosperity to the both of you guys..... welcome to our family Tracey and may god continue to bless you all. Congratulations and hope to see you guys soon

    Much much love, peace and prosperity to the both of you guys..... welcome to our family Tracey and may god continue to bless you all. Congratulations and hope to see you guys soon

  • Dave Bennsky Jr

    Dave Bennsky Jr Southern Maryland

    This is so awesome. The support you give Will is truly a magical thing. This business is not easy so having faith is huge. Keep on keeping on you guys so happy for you both.

    This is so awesome. The support you give Will is truly a magical thing. This business is not easy so having faith is huge. Keep on keeping on you guys so happy for you both.

  • Barry B'Major Rowe

    Barry B'Major Rowe Yonkers, NYC

    I definitely love this. Will "You definitely have a great life partner by your side, as I do myself " We are quite quite lucky young sir.... My fiance sits, writes, sings as I produce, arrange, mix, and write myself .... House is seemingly music 24/7 although we make time for US. I wish you guys the Total best man and Will "I'm looking forward to sending you guys some work soon as well"... TTYS

    I definitely love this. Will "You definitely have a great life partner by your side, as I do myself " We are quite quite lucky young sir.... My fiance sits, writes, sings as I produce, arrange, mix, and write myself .... House is seemingly music 24/7 although we make time for US. I wish you guys the Total best man and Will "I'm looking forward to sending you guys some work soon as well"... TTYS

  • Daniel

    Daniel Maryland

    I met Will at Olive Garden, he was our waiter and to be honest one of the best waiters we have ever had. He has great energy and an excellent personality. He puts his best work forth no matter what he does and that work ethic obviously translates into his music. This was a great read and I'm glad to see that Will is not only doing what he loves but also supported by the one he loves.

    I met Will at Olive Garden, he was our waiter and to be honest one of the best waiters we have ever had. He has great energy and an excellent personality. He puts his best work forth no matter what he does and that work ethic obviously translates into his music.
    This was a great read and I'm glad to see that Will is not only doing what he loves but also supported by the one he loves.

  • Amy

    Amy Maryland

    I just absolutely love this Tracy!!!!! I love watching y'all have faith & grow! Ya'll are going to do great things & will be blessed!! 💙💙💙💙

    I just absolutely love this Tracy!!!!! I love watching y'all have faith & grow! Ya'll are going to do great things & will be blessed!! 💙💙💙💙

  • Keenan Smith

    Keenan Smith Belleville, Illinois

    This beautifully written article is not only inspiring but helps bring reassurance in to this field (of work) that is filled with doubt and uncertainty. Alas! A prime example of how a queen should support and protect her king so that he can continue to protect and provide for his family! Thank you both the insight and sharing! Much love and Blessings!

    This beautifully written article is not only inspiring but helps bring reassurance in to this field (of work) that is filled with doubt and uncertainty. Alas! A prime example of how a queen should support and protect her king so that he can continue to protect and provide for his family! Thank you both the insight and sharing!
    Much love and Blessings!

  • Dave

    Dave Fore

    Great article! Will is lucky to have someone as supportive as you, Tracy. Wives of engineers can make or break a man's success.

    Great article! Will is lucky to have someone as supportive as you, Tracy. Wives of engineers can make or break a man's success.

  • Katie

    Katie CalCo MD

    Tracy, I loved reading this! It’s absolutely wonderful how much you love and support Will and how well you work together as a team. I think we all should aspire for that kind of relationship. Love you both! ❤️

    Tracy, I loved reading this! It’s absolutely wonderful how much you love and support Will and how well you work together as a team. I think we all should aspire for that kind of relationship. Love you both! ❤️

  • Tilli Mack

    Tilli Mack Straight Banger Studios

    Maaaaaaaaaaaaan! Thank you Tracy! Me running a studio/label and a husband, I don't have to explain why I say thank you.. I'm pretty sure every engineer that's in a relationship understand why lol Even tho my wife supports 10000% It wasn't always peaches and cream lol Salute to my family at Quality Touch

    Maaaaaaaaaaaaan!
    Thank you Tracy! Me running a studio/label and a husband, I don't have to explain why I say thank you.. I'm pretty sure every engineer that's in a relationship understand why lol
    Even tho my wife supports 10000%
    It wasn't always peaches and cream lol

    Salute to my family at Quality Touch

  • LeRoy

    LeRoy Oklahoma

    This was awesome. You ve captured the essence and dynamics of the life of an engineer and family from both perspectives. Blessings and prosperity to you and your family. Tell Will we'll hook up at the grammies lol. Peace.

    This was awesome. You ve captured the essence and dynamics of the life of an engineer and family from both perspectives. Blessings and prosperity to you and your family. Tell Will we'll hook up at the grammies lol. Peace.

  • David Steadman

    David Steadman Boston, Ma

    Great read! Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective Tracy. I've talked with Will at length many times about audio stuff only because he's a no nonsense, non-trivial type of guy who's drive for success shows in the absence of those things. Will strikes me as a guy that will do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done in his personal and professional life. (You, I'm sure know this) Stay the path, Steer the course, & Enjoy the journey!

    Great read! Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective Tracy. I've talked with Will at length many times about audio stuff only because he's a no nonsense, non-trivial type of guy who's drive for success shows in the absence of those things. Will strikes me as a guy that will do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done in his personal and professional life. (You, I'm sure know this)
    Stay the path, Steer the course, & Enjoy the journey!

  • Markeith

    Markeith Maryland

    Love it!!! I'm happy that you guys were able to tough it out and stay positive. Will has always worked hard ever since I've known him. It's really great to see how much you've supported him. Keep up the great work guys!!!

    Love it!!! I'm happy that you guys were able to tough it out and stay positive. Will has always worked hard ever since I've known him. It's really great to see how much you've supported him. Keep up the great work guys!!!

  • Christopher Saylor

    Christopher Saylor Jersey City, NJ

    This is a very important topic, one which you never see and from this perspective. Bravo to you both for working together on this and finding something that works. This is very encouraging and while not exactly my situation, there are bits that I will share with my wife in hopes we can improve on our situation. Thank you for sharing!

    This is a very important topic, one which you never see and from this perspective. Bravo to you both for working together on this and finding something that works. This is very encouraging and while not exactly my situation, there are bits that I will share with my wife in hopes we can improve on our situation.

    Thank you for sharing!

  • Momma

    Momma Lexington Park Md

    I pray for continued success for the both of you and may life ahead be forever blessed. Congrats to you for all the hard work and sacrifices that have been made that makes this dream a reality! Love you all <3

    I pray for continued success for the both of you and may life ahead be forever blessed. Congrats to you for all the hard work and sacrifices that have been made that makes this dream a reality! Love you all <3

  • Mariea

    Mariea Florida

    What an inspiring story! Nothing like having family and those you love to support your dream, even if the dream seems scary and when there's no sign of financial stability. I love this story. Consistency, coupled with hard work and faith in God is a winner every time for me! Much love and success to William and his beautiful family. I know he has given me some great tips in my mixing! Keep up the great work, and many blessings and much success to the both of you!

    What an inspiring story! Nothing like having family and those you love to support your dream, even if the dream seems scary and when there's no sign of financial stability. I love this story. Consistency, coupled with hard work and faith in God is a winner every time for me! Much love and success to William and his beautiful family. I know he has given me some great tips in my mixing! Keep up the great work, and many blessings and much success to the both of you!

  • Gem

    Gem Maryland

    So wonderfully written and open on many levels. From personal, to career, entrepreneurs, passion, to love. You covered it all. May YOU! your family and business continue to be blessed. Like the saying goes........Teamwork makes the DREAM work!

    So wonderfully written and open on many levels. From personal, to career, entrepreneurs, passion, to love. You covered it all. May YOU! your family and business continue to be blessed. Like the saying goes........Teamwork makes the DREAM work!

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